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Post by willows on Sept 28, 2009 12:42:51 GMT -5
OK, Don, you don't know me and I don't know you. Can you tell me if you find younger women more attractive than women of your own age, and I don't include Rosina here for obvious reasons. You go out with friends, I'm sure. By attractive, I mean do you think men in general, when they are middle aged, wish they could have it all over again with someone younger? Last year, one of the most devoted husbands my social group knows took off with a woman he'd met in a veterinary office. This devastated their family of four - two daughters, 19 and 21, and the son of 15. The younger woman was not any more appealing than his wife but she was only 31. We all said it was just sex he was after but he is now marrying her and our friend assured us that everything seemed just fine in the bedroom. You don't have to answer if you are uncomfortable with it but we are all so puzzled and a bit nervous too.  |
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Post by don on Oct 1, 2009 18:38:17 GMT -5
Willows, I am sorry to reply late to your enquiry. Work has been pressing. I must admit I have spent another couple of days pondering this question. First, do guys in their 40s and 50s find younger women more attractive: yes and no. Yes from a purely physical and superficial standpoint and no from anything deeper than that. When I go for lunch with the guys, who are all in their 50s and married, we usually go to a place called Earl's. This chain is known for hiring super attractive young ladies and dressing them very nicely. Not cheaply, but not in nuns' habits either. I have to work hard at keeping my eyes trained on my lunch, or on my client if it's a business lunch. The same goes for my two buddies. Sometimes one of them will comment in a way Rosina would say was inappropriate, like, "Geez look at her shoulders." Sometimes that someone is me.
Now, if one of these charming young ladies came over and propositioned me, I'd be flattered for sure but that would be it. There is nothing attractive about a girl who has had little experience in life and who can't share all the things that you remember. While a lot of guys might like the idea of being the older guy, a teacher and mentor and all that, I prefer a woman who is my equal. I know that goes for the other two guys as well. To me, a more mature women who looks good, dresses well, and can hold a conversation is by far more attractive than a young women whose conversation is limited to what's happening with her girlfriends and what she is planning to do after university. As for leaving a woman you have created a family with, and with whom you have a "history" to reflect on in your latter years, for someone younger and "new" I say no thank you. For starters, what do his kids think of this behaviour? I would imagine they'd feel betrayed.
I don't know if that answers your question or not so if it doesn't just fire back at me. Don.
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Post by willows on Oct 2, 2009 14:45:43 GMT -5
Don! Thanks for your thoughtful response. I guess it answers the question and I appreciate the honesty. How many men would say they never look at younger women? I am just so upset about my friend. She isn't handling it well and neither would I. The new woman is in her 30's but she is very much the ingenue. No one can understand what's got into him.
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